Let’s talk about the internal dialogue.
There is a voice in your head, we all have one, which loves putting us down and gets really skittish about truthful acknowledgement of the good stuff – well for most of us anyway. So what does this voice really do for us?
It’s number one mission is to protect us. So how is that not helpful?
In order to protect us it keeps us small.
- Don’t let yourself be noticed to much,
- Don’t put your hand up too often or make waves, you might get hurt, physically or emotionally etc.
So the longer term effects of following this voice is that we don’t step out of our comfort zone. We don’t push our boundaries in any area of our lives, mentally, physically, emotionally or creatively. Why else do you think that the world is filled with people who vegetate on the couch watching the opiate of TV night after night. And if life is ‘really bad’ they will also get drunk or stoned while they are doing it. Oblivion – you don’t have to deal with your relationships with either yourself or others.
Let me ask you – how many hours a week do you watch TV or DVD’s?
Don’t get me wrong, there are interesting and even relevant programs on the box but as a way of life, what a waste. TV kills creativity.
Right now if you are a TV watcher, your internal dialogue guy or gal is probably going ballistic convincing you that you deserve some ‘down time’ which I don’t dispute at all. However when was the last time that you did something that you really enjoy in that time, instead of vegging out?
So many people say to me that they just don’t have time to be, or they just aren’t creative and you know what – that is Pure Unadulterated Bull Shite!
How can I say that? Because it’s true.
If you aren’t creating it’s because you don’t really want to. If you did you would make the time, find the resources or whatever it takes. At least be honest about it to yourself if not to others!!!
So bottom line – this voice can be your Best Friend OR your Worst Enemy! and guess what ? You get to choose which it will be.
Take control. Become more present to every moment. What am I thinking? What am I feeling? And of these two the last is the most important. We have been taught to avoid, mask, discount and suppress our feelings. So let’s ask another question….
What is creativity really about?
It is an expression of who we truly are at any given moment. Sometimes it will manifest in creative i.e. artistic type works such as dance, writing, painting etc. At others it will turn up as the on going creation of a beautiful relationship. After all a relationship is just as much a space we live in as our interior decor. Do we pay more attention to our cushions than our partners? All creativity flourishes in a space of appreciation. So this brings me back to taking control.
One way we can do this is to begin daily acts of appreciation e.g.
1. EVERYDAY make a list of at least 3 things that you appreciate about yourself!!
2. Write a daily list of at least 5 things you found to appreciate during the day.
3. Find at least 2 reasons you appreciate your partner every day and TELL THEM.
4. If you have kids that goes for them too. When was the last time you told anyone that you really appreciate something about them?
If you do these simple things you will find that your internal dialogue begins to change. It’s tone will lift and you may even begin to find yourself indulging in spontaneous acts of creativity. Suddenly inspired to put extra effort into the evening meal, or taking yourself out for a walk on the beach.
Today’s Question: Can you commit to a whole week of appreciation aka the list above?
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