An idea that’s so simple yet probably counter intuitive for many of us. These are the words of an abundance mindset.
We have been taught the values of – always put others first, and dined at the table of self sacrifice as being the highest ideal to reach for. An ironical thought springs to mind “Do unto others as we would do unto ourselves”. Why ironical – you say? Well, if you think about it yes we do always strive to treat others well, but take a look at how we treat ourselves. Is this how we would want to be treated?
- Who is your harshest critic?
- Who puts you down the most?
- Who generally never has an encouraging word for you?
- How many times a day, week, year, are you telling yourself off for doing ‘stupid’ things?
I could go on – the list is kind of endless. I would suggest that the answer to all those questions is probably the same person, someone who you are very well acquainted with.
When was the last time you completed a project, a painting, baked a cake etc. and thought to yourself – “Wow – that was great, what a fantastic effort”. Not only that even if you did that, was there a little PS riding on the end of the statement that went something like – [Yeah but you could have done better, so and so – look at their one – why can’t I do one like that! etc.] And next thing you know it any self acknowledgement has gone out the window and down the drain.
If you have young children, or grand children – listen to how you encourage and praise them. We are constantly telling them how wonderful they are – are their efforts star quality? Probably not. Does that matter – not at all. So why do we bother? We love to give praise to others because it makes us feel good to see them glow, to know we are helping them to grow. So my question is Why – Why can’t we do this for ourselves?
Why do we baulk at settling for more for ourselves, do you think?
It comes from a poverty mindset, the belief that there is not enough abundance to go around and therefore I must settle for less. I don’t deserve more. If I take, not even more, but just my share then I am depriving someone else. However if we look at the world, the universe, it is filled with abundance. Look at Mother Nature, she is overflowing with abundance.
Abundant Mother Nature
So in your abundance mindset, with gratitude in your heart, – ask your self this question….
What is the one thing I can do today to ‘Settle For More’ ?
And then think about how that will enhance your life and the life of those around you.