Creativity And Self Sabotage. It is amazing how many ways we can find to slay our creative spark.
Let’s look at two different things we sometimes do that can be creativity slayers.
I am driven to write about self sabotage this week, because I saw it in action with one of my students recently, who I may add was completely unaware of what was transpiring at that moment. I recognize this particular moment because I have been there myself in the past. One reason that we come to this moment is from our desire for another’s approval of what we are doing. We are not even necessarily seeking praise for the quality of our work, but perhaps rather, appreciation of our effort.
The big trap here is that, particularly in our beginning efforts at anything, what we have done may just not measure up to someone else’s idea of good, acceptable, wonderful or whatever. What our significant others cannot see is the effort we have put in, either the struggle or the challenges, emotional, mental or physical. So when we proudly show our fledgling efforts and don’t get an enthusiastic response we can be very easily crushed.
DON’T DO THIS TO YOURSELF!!!
Not only that – the second and absolutely WORST thing you can do is show them something when it is only half finished. Because – it really is not going to ‘do it ‘ for them. Yes it can sometimes be a long time in the making, several weeks even, however you do no service to either yourself or your creation by presenting it for appraisal before it is complete. Just as we have to put a cake in the oven for a certain period of time to cook or it will just be a runny mess, so too must we allow our creations time to ‘bake’ to perfection. We don’t take the cake out when it’s half cooked and start handing around slices for people to try.
There are many ways to be inspired and I have covered several of them in our converstions here. One easy way to get yourself back into the inspiration zone is to visit one of your favourite places.
What is the place that really speaks to you?
Where in the world makes your heart sing?
Is there more than one place?
So why does this help? Simply because when you go to those places you connect to something deep withing your self . Its like a home coming and often you are impelled from within to respond creatively. Here are two of my favourite places….
Coromandel Peninsula New Zealand
And another also filled with light and water…..
There is something about both of these places that I am drawn to again and again. I have only been to Venice once but all I have to do is get out my photos and I feel inspired all over again.
What is your special place and how can it inspire you to create something today?
This past week I have been involved in a virtual creativity workshop with Angi Sullins. I would like to share with you a great exercise she had us doing this week, which is all about allowing yourself to do things. To remind us to allow ourselves to be less ‘responsible’ and more impulsive and heart oriented in our activities, Angi had us all make a permission flag. Here is mine….
We have become such slaves to leading ordered lives, fitting into our self assigned roles that have later in life become outworn garments of an inner life long discarded.
When was the last time you allowed yourself to do something delightful just because you felt like doing it?
When was the last time you did something without considering what everyone else wanted to do first?
When was the last time you skipped somewhere? Yes I did say skipped. Did you know that if you can get over yourself enough to forget about being silly, that skipping is an expression of joy? Did you know that it’s very hard – if not impossible to skip and stay grumpy, or sad or depressed?
When was the last time you created something just for the sheer joy of doing it – rather than because of one of those ‘have to ‘reasons?
So what do you do with your Permission Flag?
The idea is to put them around your house, in your car, outside the front door – any place where you want to remind yourself that it is OK to do something special for NO REASON. We don’t have to have a reason to be happy.
We don’t have to have a reason to explore the world we live in more fully. Are there streets in your neighbourhood that you have never been down? Perhaps you might take some time out this week to go and visit some of them – just to see what’s there?
It is these actions that fill our creativity cups. You can’t create in a vacuum – go and fill up your cups. Give yourself permission to do so. I have two challenges for you today -
Go skipping this week. How does it feel? What did you realize ?
Make your own permission flag – have fun doing it and put things on it that represent fun for you. And give yourself permission to have some fun this week
I would love to know how you go – Please feel inspired to come and share your experiences here. The comments button is in the top right hand corner of the post as always. I am going to give myself permission to only do one blog post a week for the month of August as I have a very busy month coming up, preparing for the colour workshop I’m giving at the end of August. So for the next few weeks beginning this week, I will only be posting on Mondays – Down Under or Sundays Up Over!! depending on which part of the world you live in! Wow the liberation I feel in saying that is TREMENDOUS. I can actually have an early night tonight now ….. Woohooo!!!
I have come to the conclusion that Life and Art are so closely intertwined as to be inseparable.
The more I teach art and participate in the development of my own creativity, the deeper my understanding of this becomes.
Although many people don’t realize it, participating in any form of creativity whatsoever – is ALWAYS an act of self development. Perhaps this is why we find so many people refusing to acknowledge their creative potential and denying themselves through that oft repeated phrase;
“But I have no talent!” I refuse to accept this and challenge everyone to examine that statement by asking the question – “Is that true?”
We all have talents of some kind which are often dismissed. The ability to draw a smile to someones lips or make people laugh are talents.